u r wrong in getting a divorce. Jesus doesn’t want u to get divorced. he wants u to stay in your marriage. but we all know that sometimes it is impossible. r u in trouble with God? it depends on what your definition of trouble is. God loves you and can “correct” you with discipline but isn’t that what we need and desire? don’t we want our Father to guide us to a right path? your view of trouble is my view of correction. and we all need correction. i want God to correct (punish) me when i do wrong. if i’m on a river that’s headed to a waterfall do i want to stay on it and die? or would i rather have God drown my boat, ruin thousands of dollars of equipment, have me swim to shore and spare my life?

u might say “well, put yourself in my shoes”. i truly cannot do that but i could ask you to put yourself in mine. did u pray wholeheartedly every day and ask for guidance from your Father in heaven and ask for counsel with your decision to get married? if you can honestly say that you did every day and focused on it (for it truly is a major decision in your life) and still ended up in divorce then i would be left with the thought that you made a tough decision to get divorced but it is still an action God doesn’t want u to take. and i know that is tough.

because here is the deal. i really believe that if you focused on God daily and truly put your heart into the decision to get married and let God work his power in that decision He would bring you the right person and you would NEVER get divorced. if you don’t focus on God in your decisions then you are making a worldly, manly, sin infested decision and are rolling the dice so to say. some get lucky and make it some don’t. i would bet that most don’t. but i believe the ones that put Jesus first in their decisions and are true to it, make it. i’m not talking about saying or praying one time “hey God this is me, help me with my decision” and then never really meditating on it again. i’m talking about focusing on it and praying on it EVERY day. i didn’t do a great job of it in my younger years, but i learned that it is a whole lot better doing it that way these days and it works.

a famous baseball player once said “playing the game of baseball is 90% mental”. i used to think how stupid of a saying is that? but now in my older days i see how true it is. i used to think yeah right, michael jordan really needs to worry about the mental stuff doesn’t he? 6’6″, can jump out of the gym and is the best scorer ever. BUT…..how did he get there? it was through massive mental dedication, that’s how. and it is cooberated. anyone that ever came in contact with him said he is the most focused man they ever knew. it is the same with anything we do. ESPECIALLY God. he wants us mentally focused on him even more that 90%. not just in church but all the time. why not? it doesn’t mean i have to stand and pray every second. it just means that i feel his presence and try to put Him first in everything i do. but i do feel that we need to set aside time to pray daily to Him.

so i say all that to say this. God loves you just like your biological father OUGHT to love you and God loves us even more than that or more than we can imagine. if you focused on God daily and still decided to get a divorce i think God will correct you. maybe he already has through mental anguish, etc…i don’t know. God dislikes divorce but if you are truly his Child, he still loves you no matter what and will not forsake you. you are still his. you might go through a little correction (punishment) here on earth but trust me it is well worth it. it is a mere bump in the road compared to eternity in Heaven. God is telling you that you need to focus on Him on all your future decisions such as marriage. that is, unless you enjoy the pain and turmoil of what you have gone through, which i doubt you do. He is having me right now bring good solid information to you from his book and from what i have learned in my time.

my question to u is did you honestly, every day focus on God and ask for guidance and meditate thoughtfully on your decisions to get married? did u give God all the chances in the world to help u with your marriage? let me know. talk to me. the Good news is that you are all right. you are human and just like us all we all make mistakes. but God still loves you and wants to you avoid it in the future.

http://www.brandnewchurch.com/messages/player/91/171/

and

http://www.bibletopics.com/topics.htm

here are some verses I found online – most I believe are from the ESV.

Ephesians 4:28
Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands, so that he may have something to share with anyone in need.

Exodus 20:15
“You shall not steal.”

Jeremiah 7:9-11
Will you steal, murder, commit adultery, swear falsely, make offerings to Baal, and go after other gods that you have not known, and then come and stand before me in this house, which is called by my name, and say, ‘We are delivered!’—only to go on doing all these abominations? Has this house, which is called by my name, become a den of robbers in your eyes? Behold, I myself have seen it, declares the Lord.

Romans 13:9
For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet,” and any other commandment, are summed up in this word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”