Ok, many have asked what I learned from my first (and definitely not last) marriage counseling appointment:
#12 Cindy is the best wife on planet earth!
#11 The appointment was for Shannon more than for Cindy.
#10 Intimacy heightened due to counseling. (Thank you Jesus!)
#9 Every Pastor and Leader must schedule marriage counseling.
#8 Told my wife “I LOVE YOU” like nothing I have done in recent years.
#7 Went in with little to work on and left with a lifetime of goals (3 handwritten pages to be exact)!
#6 Truths applied to every area of my leadership.
#5 God gives grace to the humble (humble yourselves men and schedule it today).
#4 Decrease my “fix it” mentality.
#3 Learn to distinguish between perpetual issues and solvable problems.
#2 You can HURT your mate (confession, reproof, repentance, rebuke) but do not HARM them.
#1 Never waste a good fight (work through it, don’t bury it).
Make certain you find a “Christian Biblically Based” counselor. I highly recommend Fellowship Counseling Services. You can learn more by clicking here
Scott says,
Very good list. By blogging to the world you commit to growing. I don’t know if that was your intent, but it shows your love for your wife. It also gives me ideas to make sure my wife knows how much I love her.
on 17 February 2010 / 3:15 PM
Penny Ezell says,
You do realize your counseling book is now going to be even more full!!:)
Great list!! Love learning from you guys!!!
on 17 February 2010 / 5:42 PM